We have all heard the cliché, “Time heals all wounds.” Well, that is not necessarily true. Sometimes, because we do not recognize the need to grieve, or we do not know how to grieve, we leave pain in our hearts. I read the article on the website https://www.griefrecoverymethod.com/comment/14493
It was referring back to an ad for an auto mechanic company that had the slogan, “Pay me now or pay me later.” That means if you make simple adjustments like changing your oil filter and making sure it is clean NOW, you will not have to replace your engine that is clogged from the gunk a dirty filter could not clean out. It said grief acts in the same way. There are unresolved communications, as well as parts of the relationship that need to be understood, and pain that we have to work through. If we do not attempt to rectify and clean out these feelings, our ability to feel and love will not flow freely.
Another book I read, a novel and lighter reading, is Wilderness of Mirrors by Helen Baker. The main character Christina is trying to work through questions she has with relationships and her ability to trust and commit. It is not until she recognizes that she is still grieving for the loss of her mother that she is able to move forward in her relationships. The references to her grieve resolution are subtle while interwoven with comical and sometime poignant situations.
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