I watched some movies lately that were set in high school situations, and I was reminded of the drama of trying to find oneself. One of the issues that each movies showed was bullying. I experienced bullying, and according to the statistics, at least 28 % of high school students reported being bullied. The serious problem comes when the victim starts to feel helpless, hopeless and useless. That is when the danger of losing a dear one to suicide is real.
I never told anyone what was going on when I was being bullied. I figured it was something I had to deal with on my own. Many other children may feel the same, so as an adult or parent how do you recognize that someone is being bullied, and what do you do about it? There is a really good website called www.stopbullying.gov
In this website they discussed the importance of talking about life situations with your children. Ask how their day went. What was something they really enjoyed today? What did they not enjoy about today? How are things at lunch or after school? Who are their friends, and what did you and your friends discuss today? All of these questions are open ended and help to get a glimpse of what is really going on in your children lives. They said that the open and sincere conversions are an important key to children discussing bullying situations. They also said it may be important to ask your children directly, “Are you being bullied, or do you know someone that is being bullied?” Ask them how they feel about this happening in their school.
They mentioned some warning signs, but said to be cautious because not all children will exhibit warning signs. Here are the signs:
Be a friend to the person who is bullied
Tell a trusted adult about the situation
Help someone who is bullied get out of the situation
Set a good example for other students
Don’t give the bully an audience.
How we treat others affects our children and our community. Bullying does not necessarily end in high school. It is everyone’s responsibility to send the message that bullying is not tolerated.
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